January 23rd 2021

 It was really interesting to listen and be a part of this week's class. We talked about roles in the families. I want to talk about my family and the roles each of us had. I think that the roles we took on moved a little bit as we got older but for the most part, they stayed the same. The role that I took on in my family is Peacemaker. I am somebody who doesn't like fighting and will do whatever I can to calm down the situation. I like to avoid confrontation, although there was definitely the normal sibling fighting between my brother and me growing up. After attending the class, I asked my mom what she thought each of our roles was in our family. She had a few for each of us, for me, she said Peacemaker, the quiet one, the avoid all confrontation one, and the kind one. Each of these brought its own strengths and weaknesses. Being a peacemaker, I was able to settle fights that were happening and keep the peace in tough situations, being the quiet one I am able to listen. 

Family roles are super important but not every family has every role. There are so many different combinations of family roles. I think there are some families with different roles that works well together and each role compliments each other but there are definitely families that don't have quite such luck. For example, if there is somebody who has no patience but there is also somebody who takes their time, then those two people are probably going to butt heads a lot. But an example for the other way is when someone is a good listener, and the other person is a talker than they are going to get along because one person can listen while the other one just speaks their mind.

I think in finding a spouse you need to look for their qualities and try and determine what their role is going to be and see if you have any conflicting things about you. The only thing is you will never know completely what somebody’s family role will be until they are in that setting. Also, even if you do have conflicting roles there is always a way that you can work on it and improve yourselves to be able to work with them better in a family setting.